It’s the right thing to do, I think.
I’ve taken advice, from people I trust on this topic. Originally we were torn between if it’ll just cause harm or if it’s in-fact a sensible and adult thing to do. We settled in the middle, which leaves a decent size risk that it could go wrong and that’s no good.
Also there’s a balancing act of showing care, like true honest care and not coming across like your sole motivation is getting in their pants. Because it’s not.
I’ve crafted a message and it’s been checked and proofread by emotional consultants so i’m going to send it, tonight.
I think this is growth, I feel good about it. And if they reply with a barrage of insults and nastiness then at least I tried.
I will never be a perfect man.